One week ago my long-time friend and confidant Sandra Messick passed on in her sleep. It came as a shock as she was not ill, and was active up to her last day on earth. I am sad and miss our daily talks and her wisdom.
Because of her family’s logistics and perhaps Sandra’s own request, there would be no memorial service, only a request to light a candle for her on Sunday night at 7 pm. I wanted to celebrate her life and perhaps her friends in Boulder would as well. After conferring with her son and boyfriend, I got the go-ahead to put the event together.
The response of others was just what I had envisioned. Stories were shared, tears fell, arms embraced, and we celebrated the life of an amazing, adventurous woman. Her boyfriend, who questioned if he even wanted a memorial gathering, told me at the end of the evening that this was just what he needed.
My request to you my friends is to consider the needs of your loved ones after you pass. Give them an opportunity to grieve together. Let them support each other, and remember, a memorial service is for those left behind. You will have already transitioned; you will be fine. Your family and friends are the ones who need the celebratory event. Let them decide what they need, not you. You are gone. This small event will ease their broken hearts, and that is done by embracing each other physically and emotionally. It is because of Sandra that I have this wisdom.
In the Light,
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